Age Doesn’t Dictate Maturity
Have you ever made a connection between age and maturity? Ever stated or felt that someone was “mature for their age?”
If so, there is some merit to what you’re saying.
We tend to make a correlation between age and maturity because if someone’s lived longer than someone else on Earth, chances are, they’ve experienced more, know more, have had more time to grow, and are consequently more mature.
That’s the case many times, but there also exists other cases where we have older folks who act childish and immature.
What’s the deal? Why does this happen?
I argue that age doesn’t have as much of a correlation to maturity as commonly thought.
In other words, we attribute maturity to age too much. We give age itself too much credit.
Age itself just means how many times you’ve been around the Sun.
- It doesn’t mean that you’re a quick learner of life lessons.
- It doesn’t mean you have excellent self-awareness.
- It doesn’t mean that you’re good at extracting the gifts that lay hidden in pain and hardship.
Sure, it may mean you’ve spent more time alive than some kid in elementary school, but there are other factors that come into play when it comes to maturity.
I firmly believe that one matures depending on how efficiently they can extract lessons from their experiences and how well they retain their growth.
If someone fails to learn a crucial lesson from a certain hardship over and over again, they’re not going to grow. It doesn’t matter if they experience that same hardship over 10 years if they don’t learn from it.
On the other hand, someone who learns the lesson the first time around will have matured in that respect faster than the first person who hasn’t gotten the memo, even if they are younger.
You could be 40 years old, but if you still think it’s okay to bully your coworkers and peers, you’re more immature than someone who knows better than to do that, but is 20 years old.
Like I said before, the amount of time you spent alive doesn’t automatically mean you’re wise, mature, or well-mannered.
I mean, congratulations for surviving as long as you have, but make sure you’re growing in ways more than just the wrinkles on your face.
This is why I talk a lot about self-awareness and being on the lookout for the lessons to be learned and the gifts to extract from your pain and stress:
The more quickly you’re able to pick up on your life lessons, the more quickly you’ll mature and become a better person.
I know this is easier said than done, and sometimes you don’t see the lesson to be learned until after the whole hardship is long over. I know how much that sucks. I spent the first 18–19 years of my life not knowing why I went through the injustice that I did. Only after nearly two decades did I find out why.
But like I’ve said before in my other content, I can promise you that if you hold on and push through your hardship, and as long as you keep an open-mind and stay self-aware, you will understand why you went through what you did, and you’ll be a much better person afterwards.
Life doesn’t throw you pain and hardship for the fun of it. Difficulty is a calling to become a better version of yourself.
So stay focused, stay sharp, and you will grow in ways you haven’t before.